Hey, what up guys.
Whew. It’s been a long time.
Honestly, too long. It’s about time I started sharing more value with you boys.
So, here you go.
I’ve been getting a lot of question lately about what women really desire in a man, and how if a guy doesn’t have all those qualities, how can he obtain them.
Here’s my simple answer…
Women look for a lot of different things in men, but the ONE THING that matters to all women is confidence.
The reason why this is, is because confidence is the root of all other great qualities.
Think about it…
Women say they like funny guys…
Is a funny, witty guy confident in himself when he makes a joke?
Women are attracted to leaders…
Is a leader confident in himself?
Some believe women are into “douchebags”…
Is a “douchebag” confident in himself?
The point is that all great qualities about you are magnified when you have confidence in yourself.
That douchebag might actually have some good traits.
And because he is so confident in himself, those traits shine through. Unfortunately, so does his bad side.
But, the point is that he has confidence, and his personality is so big that it’s contagious.
If a “nice guy” doesn’t have a lot of confidence in himself, all those great qualities he has don’t shine through.
So, we have established that confidence is vital to your success with women as well as your overall happiness.
Now, how do you increase your confidence?
It’s simpler than you think.
Increasing your confidence comes more from you, and less than others.
See, I know plenty of guys who are in UNBELIEVABLE shape.
Yet, they scared when they talk to girls.
Because they want approval from women, that’s why they got ripped in the first place.
Now, they have every right to be confident in their bodies. They paid their dues in the gym.
But what is not okay is working out thinking, “yeah, this is going to attract so many hot girls. I’m going to be getting laid so easily.”
The big problem with that is he is getting his source of confidence from the OUTCOME of a situation. Not from within himself.
If he got ripped for the sake of being healthy, looking great in any outfit, etc, than he wouldn’t care how girls saw his body. He gets his confidence from within himself, not from other people’s approval.
Quick side note: When I first got really good with girls, I weighed like 155lbs.
I still got laid. Often.
So don’t think you need to be ripped to attract pretty girls. Confidence matters more.
Having a personality matters more.
So, the best way to increase your confidence is start doing things FOR YOU.
You want to work out and get in great shape?
Do it for you.
You want to talk to that cute girl at the bar?
Do it for you.
When you have this paradigm shift, you become more self-entertaining, more self-focused, and less approval seeking.
That’s how you build confidence.
Until next time,